For the masculine part of my four-part series dealing with relationships, I had my friends Richard and
Matt (not Frank) in the studio with me to share their opinions on what attracts them to women and how they see themselves growing with age and experience. This series has been fun to record, however, I feel like my friends are a bit more reserved than they would be if we were speaking off the record!
Another issue with this week’s Podshow is the congruity of thoughts. My military buddies and I are all single, conservative, military veterans who run in the same circles. I really wanted to get a diverse group of men that could represent a more varied outlook on the subject matter, but my guests had some very interesting viewpoints regardless.
In the next episode of this series, I will be interviewing a group of men and women to compare what was said in the previous shows and, most importantly, see if I can find a common ground when it comes to relationships between men and women. I don’t know if I have learned much that I didn’t know about the sexes in general, yet I feel as if I have learned new things about my peers and myself. I have a lot of work to do before I become the venerable leader of a healthy family.
This week I had the pleasure of having the Kira, Nasheda, Maykela, Henia, Jasmine, Alyssha and Ashley in studio. The ladies spilled tea and drank lemonade in a discussion that included topics like: How they feel men should approach women, what some of our faults are, and how we can keep our relationships running strong.
Communication is the number one issue the ladies wanted to talk about. No one brought up intimacy or material items — the ability to be transparent and genuine was the one thing that the ladies agreed on. Nasheda said, “It’s not what you say necessarily, but how you say it,” and I totally agree. Being able to talk to the opposite sex takes practice and patience for most of us, so always remember to be respectful and even keeled.
In the next podcast, I’ll interview three men and get a masculine perspective. How do you think the male point of view will differ from the ladies when it comes to relationships and discourse? Tune in, this should be good.
I usually schedule more than one guest per show because I don’t like to be stuck in the studio talking to myself. This Sunday was one of those solitary days where I had no one to talk to and my preparation time was wasted, which left me feeling pretty down. Lashing out at people was my normal way of dealing with situations like these, but I’m learning not to take things personally and looking to improving myself is a tactic I’ve used to help me in my dealings with others.
We all have relationships; some mean more to us than others, whether it is with a family member, friend or romantic partner. The theme behind this show is self-evaluation and improvement of said relationships. Specifically, what are your flaws and how do you plan on improving them? Why?
Who can’t benefit from honest self-evaluation from time-to-time? My challenge to you is assessing your flaws and making a conscious plan to improve them on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. Challenge yourself to become a better person—your peers and the people who look up to you will notice — I am certain of it.
Patience, punctuality, and controlling the tone and pitch of my voice are some of the immediate goals I want to work on. In the long-term I have fleshed out plenty of goals, including: becoming more financially stable, earning an MSW (and maybe a PhD), saving for my son’s college, traveling to Africa (and many other places), starting my own non-profit, buying a home in Chicago… it’s a really long list. I encourage you to write down your goals and discuss the plans you have in respects to strengthening relationships. I need your help family.